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Make it Mentionable

Alyssa Kulesa

A punchy and practical column exploring self-awareness, relationships, and the subconscious dynamics secretly running our lives because what you can mention, you can manage. Written by status-quo avoidant writer, communication nerd, and master life coach Alyssa Patmos (soon-to-be Alyssa Kulesa).

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shaking it up like a snow globe

Hey Reader, I feel a little bit nervous as I let my fingertips brush over my pink keyboard for the first time in what feels like eternity. Anyone who teaches about "building an email list" will tell you A) not to ghost your list for 7 months and B) certainly not to announce you have ghosted them for 7 months upon return. Now that I've done both of those things we can get back to the meat of this email. First, hi. If you're opening this to either 1). remember who the hell I am or 2). because...

4 months ago • 3 min read

Planes, presence, and freshly squeezed orange juice Pre-P.S. You're reading day 25 of my 32 days of insights, inspiration, and instigation. (Very informal title). Get the full scoop here. ✨ We made it to Chicago yesterday! After 16 hours of travel, one better-than-usual but still not great airplane meal, three episodes of The Witch Trials of J.K. Rowling, two episodes of Queen Charlotte, 1 hour waiting for our bags, and 45 minutes in a taxi, we stepped foot into our swanky hotel overlooking...

11 months ago • 3 min read

Screw the swear jar; pay someone a quarter every time you say this instead Pre-P.S. You're reading day 22 of my 32 days of insights, inspiration, and instigation. (Very informal title). Get the full scoop here. ✨ I've decided to avoid learning "should" in Spanish. Our house has no swear jar (it'd be full real fast). Instead of policing swear words, we've banned the word "should" from our conversations. So there's really no point in me learning it in Spanish. Should is a far more damaging word...

11 months ago • 3 min read

What else could it mean? Pre-P.S. You're reading day 21 of my 32 days of insights, inspiration, and instigation. (Very informal title). Get the full scoop here. ✨ "I don't know which way to tell the story." "Do I reveal what I was thinking, or do we keep them in the dark with suspense?" These are the types of questions littering my mind like scooters litter city streets as I've been drafting the script for my wedding ceremony this week (the countdown has reached single digits now 🎉). Like...

11 months ago • 2 min read

Snooze Buttons and Bath Tubs Pre-P.S. You're reading day 20 of my 32 days of insights, inspiration, and instigation. (Very informal title). Get the full scoop here. ✨ "Did you set the alarm?" I despise hearing those five words. #Noalarmclocklife is the name of the game over here and has been for the past five years. In my world, alarm clocks are tiny torture devices designed to assault my senses as they pull me from precious sleep. ⏰☠️ They're a top contender in my list of the worst...

12 months ago • 3 min read

Doing What Matters Most Pre-P.S. You're reading day 19 of my 32 days of insights, inspiration, and instigation. (Very informal title). Get the full scoop here. ✨ Some people have the magical ability to wake up at the same time every morning and operate methodically. They wake up, shower, put on the coffee, grab the day's outfit, snag the now-ready coffee, do hair/makeup, sit at the desk, and immediately start working on the most important task. I am not one of those people. If you're one of...

12 months ago • 2 min read

Chocolate Chip Cookie Dough & Half-Baked Projects Pre-P.S. You're reading day 18 of my 32 days of insights, inspiration, and instigation. (Very informal title). Get the full scoop here. ✨ How done do you like your cookies? When I can find a shop that has gluten-free cookies, I'm like a kid on Christmas. But cookies aren't created equal. I'm not a hard-cookie person. Chips Ahoy never compared to soft homemade cookies. I want slightly crispy bottoms with gooey centers. So essentially,...

12 months ago • 2 min read

Espresso Martinis and Word Salads Pre-P.S. You're reading day 17 of my 32 days of insights, inspiration, and instigation. (Very informal title). Get the full scoop here. ✨ "Do you want an espresso martini?" Surprised by the question, I looked across the table at Geoff to gauge his reaction. "My boss is offering one to each of you on the house," the bartender continued, clearly picking up on our confusion. I chuckled to myself because I get more free drinks when Geoff is with me than when I...

12 months ago • 3 min read

Stories are Portals of Possibility Pre-P.S. You're reading day 16 of my 32 days of insights, inspiration, and instigation. (Very informal title). Get the full scoop here. ✨ I hate reality TV. Give me a drama like Bridgerton over The Real Housewives anyday. Getting lost in story is more addicting than chocolate. Stories let us try on new realities and reactions. They're magic for helping us get out of our heads so we can see more possibilities. When we can observe rather than be in the middle...

12 months ago • 2 min read

3 Quotes That Stick More Than Peanut Butter in a Dog's Mouth Pre-P.S. You're reading day 15 of my 32 days of insights, inspiration, and instigation. (Very informal title). Get the full scoop here. ✨ Growing up, one of my favorite sandwiches wasn't peanut butter and jelly; it was peanut butter and marshmallow fluff. Have you ever had one? Speaking of things that go together, inspirational quotes and Instagram go together like peanut butter and fluff. As in, there's a lot of fluff. So today, I...

12 months ago • 3 min read
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